For the uninvolved partner:
It feels as though everything you built together was burned to ashes at the hands of the person who is supposed to make you feel safe. The ground beneath you feels shaky and now you are questioning everything. You look at the pictures on the wall and wonder if it was all a lie. You are starting to question if you will ever feel secure again.
You carry a heavy weight on your shoulders. The shame and guilt makes you question if you even know who you are anymore. You are struggling to accept that your mistakes do not define who you are. You wonder how you ever let things get to this point, how you allowed yourself to be so short-sighted. You want more than anything to go back in time and change things. You want to take away your partners pain and make it okay, but you don’t know how.
"The flower that blooms in adversity is the rarest and most beautiful of all."
How it Works
First, we will address the immediate crisis by holding space to explore and process the intense emotions that can range form anger, sadness, guilt, shame, denial and loss. There can be a tremendous amount of anxiety around the uncertainty of the future. The goals in this stage include gaining support and coping skills as well as working towards acceptance.
Next, we work together to give meaning to all of the heart ache and pain. It is important to understand what the affair meant to the involved partner, as well as how it has impacted the uninvolved partner. I will help you move from fact questioning that often leads to more pain, to investigative questioning. These questions address love, sex, desire, loss, intimacy, accountability, forgiveness and much more. By understanding the meaning and motives, you will be able to assign meaning to the affair and feel more equipped to make decisions about the future of your relationship.
Lastly, we look to the future of the relationship. If you decide to continue in your relationship, it is important to do so with a strong foundation. Together you will reflect on what you want to be different, how your values and beliefs may have changed and what you want and need from your partner in the future.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do you accept insurance?No, I am considered an out of network provider. Though, I can provide a superbill for clients to receive any out of network benefits they qualify for from their insurance policy.
What is the cost of sessions?I offer a 50-minute session for $150 or a 90-minute session for $195.
Do you offer virtual sessions?Yes, I offer sessions via Zoom.
What is your cancellation policy?I require 24-hour notice so that I can have time to fill the available spot. That being said, I understand that emergencies come up and I don’t charge for those instances.
What payments do you accept?Card, HSA and FSA.
How frequently do I need to come?It’s up to you! I recommend starting weekly and then going to bi-weekly after you feel you are on more solid ground. Monthly sessions are not reserved in advance and are subject to availability.